Friday, 7 October 2016

Foetal movements

I've been writing about monkey's movements but I thought foetal movements deserves a special post.

I really, really love feeling my babies move in my belly. Sure, they can be painful and uncomfortable. But they are also full of wonder, telling me that my babies are growing and can't wait to come out!

They started as small fluttering movements. I think for me at least, they typically started as taps or clicks on the pelvic floor area. Sometimes, I couldn't tell whether I imagined them. Slowly, they became more pronounced, and I became sure they were foetal movements.

ZK used to move in two different directions at the same time. Usually one at bottom of one side and the other at the ribs of the other.

ZY - oops, I don't remember any particular movements. So poor thing, this baby - Mama always forgets things during his pregnancy :(

And monkey tends to punch me above my left hip. It's super sore. And his butt pushes against my belly above my belly button. A few days ago, I felt a long, hard and thin thing near my belly button and wondered which part of him that was - leg or arm?

There are times when monkey doesn't move much, usually in the day. Then, like now, he'll move a lot and everywhere! And I feel like peeing all the time he's at it!

Oh but there are times I don't particularly appreciate these movements - during Braxton Hicks contractions and when I'm on the throne *.*

I have spent much time just staring at my belly, sometimes with a phone in my hands hoping to capture the movements.

Here's one courtesy of monkey



Violent baby!

But gosh, I think I'm so going to miss feeling a baby grow inside...

Thursday, 6 October 2016

Staycation booked!

Yup, we're heading for my staycation with monkey on Sunday, woohoo!

We started this morning with a bit of bloody mucous. Oh well, I was going to see my doc in the afternoon so off to the office I went - damn long meeting it was but I was happy with the outcome.

Nurse called to say that the doc had an op so my appointment was postponed by an hour. Just as well coz I would have been late. I had a tiny bowl of laksa at Tangs coz I wasn't too hungry but it wasn't too nice so I had to wash it down with toriyaki :p

Did some work while waiting for the doc. So I weighed in at 78.5 kg despite all that food. I didn't hit 80 kg after all, yeah!!!

Doc: So, any pain?
mf: Nope!
Doc: Ok, let's check if you're dilated...
mf: Ok... Oh, I had some bloody mucous this morning..
Doc: Thanks for the information ah *.*

He's quite funny la...

The cervical examination was expectedly uncomfortable. So I was already 3-4 cm dilated! But doc said it could be monkey or it could be due to my past two deliveries. So CTG next, after a quick look at monkey who weighed in at about 3.6 kg - I was so excited I forgot the weight :p

Was strapped to the machine for some 20 min. Tracked monkey's heartbeat and contractions. No contractions at all - so the doc said I didn't have to go in tonight or even tomorrow. He gave us a choice to wait it out or choose a date to induce so I wouldn't risk it, given how fast I dilated with ZK and ZY.

I said I liked odd numbers *.* I must be so bimbo to him coz last time I even asked him about pedicures! Anyway, I was thinking of Sunday so I asked if that was alright. He said up to me - and monkey!

Sito never replied to my many text messages while I was strapped to the CTG. But he eventually called me when I asked him to. Apparently he's been going around telling his colleagues hoho! My husband is so cute :)

So we discussed and decided on Sunday - it would give us some time to tie up loose ends at work and at home. Also discussed Sunday arrangements with Mum over the kids' dinner. And I just listed down the last things to do over the next two days. I think we're almost set to welcome monkey!

Spent some time kissing my ZK at bedtime and hugging ZY when he woke just now. My last couple of days with just the two of them... Time really flies!

Wednesday, 5 October 2016

Random bits

I used to write random stuff on this blog. I haven't done so in a long time coz I don't even have enough time to write about the kids! But I would like to try again... I have lots of stuff dating way back but it's such a b*tch getting the pictures so I'll just start from 2016 and hope I can do it more regularly...

Vegetarian lean meat - wth


Chinese gingerbread man - they changed his clothes from the Christmas decor, really!


Sito gave me a souvenir from Japan - I can turn the kebab when I'm stressed, hoho!


My old duffel bag with all my badges!


See the now-defunct slit for mail? I had a functional one in my fourth year accommodation at Iffley Road


Plenty of childhood memories!


I'm down to my last post-it pad from an era past....


Another little thought from Sito - coz I'm a mama :)


Because it's older than ZY!


Pre-UK shot!


ZY broke my hairband of some 10 years, sighs...


Some liquid spilled and destroyed my 20-year-old coin pouch from Ah Yee when she went to New Zealand


Tuesday, 4 October 2016

Art and craft

I took photos of all of their works, never mind if I couldn't tell what they were! Sometimes, they were able to tell me. Sometimes, I found out from the school's Facebook page. After the photos, well, I threw most of the stuff away and keep only the nicer or more meaningful ones.

Recently, there was an auction in school for the President's Challenge. We couldn't be bothered to go to the auction so we just bought their stuff. Turned out that they did sell individual works. They only auctioned the bigger group works.

ZK's batik - very nicely done!


ZY's rice basket


His expression and his age told me that he had a lot of help hoho!


More of ZK's works:

"What is this?" "Snake!" "Oh..."


Sheep!


ZY had fun with it :)


A mask - regretted throwing this now that I realised Halloween is pretty near!


First item in his book of adventures!


And I was wondering what the figure with his face was all about...


Time to showcase ZY's works:

"What is this?" "Fu fu fu... Flower!"


He couldn't say this so I said it to him and he made me repeat many times


"Yummy food!"


Oh, ZY likes eggs - we have omelette almost every day. Since a couple of months back, I found that he likes hardboiled eggs too. He had his first 卤蛋 on 2 Sep!

The kids bring home a lot of work but I seldom have time or energy to document them. I have an overflowing box of some of their stuff. Hope to find better storage for them when we move house...

And before I end off - don't think I posted this here but ZK found my old index cards at Mother's place one day and decided to draw us...

I love this series!

Monday, 3 October 2016

ZK's Chinese

30 Aug 2016 was significant. That evening, I spoke to ZK in only Mandarin. I realised I hadn't done that in ages!

That evening, ZK asked me what something was called in Chinese for the first time - ghost *.*

Then playground so that he could say 大便游乐场 and laugh *.*

And his fave Chinese phrases?
  • Can you 陪我一下? - at bedtime
  • You see my 屁股 / 屁屁!! - at shower time or just random!
  • 弟!弟! - in his big brother way when scolding the brother
Nvm, at least he has started asking what X is in Chinese. It's a good start :) He's even singing Chinese songs! And his Chinese is very cute, especially when he's singing coz it's so much Chinese at one go! And when I asked 好不好, he might even reply with a 好!

Today I received a school circular that his Chinese teacher who also teaches K1/K2 is moving on to focus on curriculum planning and K1/K2. The playgroup Chinese teacher will take N2 instead, which is fine as she's a good teacher too - I'm pretty sure she's the reason ZY is not a total angmoh kia yet!!

Sunday, 2 October 2016

My lovely lovely ZY :)

While sitting with ZY at bedtime, he said, "I like Mama." :)))

And then...

ZY: Mama?
mf: Yes?
ZY: Mama?
mf: I'm here..
ZY: Mama...
mf: Yes?
ZY: Mama...
mf: Mama here...

:)))))))

He had his little head on my leg, and turned to rub my belly and belly button.

"Baby inside!"

Indeed :)

We sang a little and he went to sleep. So sweet!!!

But then I was stuck. I anyhow waved at the camera and by a stroke of luck, Sito happened to be checking the camera so he came to my rescue, phew!

Usually, I could manage but I'm in pain right now. Already quite painful after over-stretching a little at Pilates on Thursday. I didn't go for Pilates on Saturday in the end coz it was painful. And just now, ZY was as usual kicking around while having his diaper put on and caught me on the pubic bone. Super painful...

But this boy is so cute... He did two other super cute things today.

On 21 August, he did this after watching a relay match in the morning


He also watched diving that morning so I was a little scared... But then he didn't do anything so I forgot until this morning... I was with him in the room playing when he started jumping off ZK's mattress onto a playmat and spread himself flat on the floor right in front of the cabinets.

Took me five seconds to realise he was mimicking the swimmers at the recent Olympics - dive and swim! Cute but very scary to watch! Persuaded him to "dive" onto ZK's mattress instead *.* And with more space in front, he crawled the entire length of the bed and said he was swimming!

In the afternoon, he did this



Not the first time he did the hands together and bow thing but I finally managed to video it. Super cute! And after that, ZK led in kungfu and ZY followed everything.

He's quite a good boy today, apart from the usual throwing of toys... He played quietly with toys in the morning, "helped" me with some origami and identified the number and colours correctly in both English and Chinese, napped well, and finished his dinner in record time. This naughty face is really a 宝贝 :)

Saturday, 1 October 2016

Children's Day update on monkey

I haven't been sleeping well in the past week, feeling sore and mang zang and hot/cold, until last night - we did foot reflexology at a relatively new place downstairs and it was really good! This was our second time there and we tried three therapists in total - all good. And best of all, the lady dared to really massage me despite my pregnancy, unlike our regular place where the lady ended up just rubbing my skin *.*

So, Thursday at 36w5d, I still weighed in at 77.8 kg but monkey had grown to about 3.3 kg, yeah! His hands were hiding his face from view, so no photo today.

Doc asked if we wanted more. I told him I wouldn't survive another pregnancy!! So he explained postpartum ligation on the second day under light GA, and hormonal IUD a few months later. Upon discussion with Sito, well, let's not put anything in or take anything out la!

Went for Pilates after that and kind of overstretched my legs. But an abdominal exercise made my belly point forward - quite fun to watch. Even the instructor was like, oooh, you're working hard! I have a last class today - thought I'd better finish the package in case I pop next week! Coz:

1) Doc said he would check my cervix next week. He was very candid and said that he was very scared of me! Coz my initial dilation was painless and I dilated fully in three hours for both ZK and ZY. So I suspect if I had dilated next week, he'd make me go straight in.

2) Friend whose EDD was a week before me just popped yesterday!! I'm very motivated to finish packing the rest of our baby stuff today - after writing this.

Something funny happened on Thursday night. Sito was out for dinner with his friends and saw a missed call from Mum at close to 9 pm. His first thought was, mf giving birth?! :p Good to see my better half getting nervous too, heh!

Anyway, happy Children's Day! I think it's always going to be 1 October for me :) We're planning a pizza night for the boys tonight :)

Monday, 26 September 2016

Managing our child care centre

Let me put it upfront - I really like our child care centre. It's spacious, with its own outdoor space that has a trampoline, a playground, a road safety area, a water play area. Each class has its own space and sometimes its own room. The two adjacent buildings are old but they are kept clean. Most importantly, the teachers are nice and the boys seem to enjoy their time there.

But perhaps it's a relatively new setup compared to the major chains out there so its administration gets a bit frustrating sometimes.

I just had time to look at the term 4 newsletters and saw the upcoming centre closure days, including public holidays. And I found that the original date of 25 November is missing. Instead, there are now two upcoming closure days on Monday, 31 October and Saturday, 24 December, listed as for Deepavali and school closure respectively.

Now, centres can close for seven days a year, including three half-days on the eve of any major festivals such as Christmas, New Year, LNY, Hari Raya and Deepavali etc. Lucky if the three half-days are on the eve of Christmas, New Year and LNY, since most office people work half day on those eves; not so lucky if they fall on other festivals... Anyway, my centre has closed for 4.5 this year already so 25 November should be the last closure day.

But (1) Deepavali is on Saturday, 29 October, which means no automatic public holiday on the following Monday, and (2) it is not clear that 24 December is replacing 25 November though I know that if Christmas or New Year falls on a Sunday, centres are supposed to operate normal on the preceding Saturday unless they utilise one of the 5.5 days of centre closure. So I have written an email to the principal to seek clarifications. If they really change 25 November to 24 December, Sito could cancel his leave on 25 November.

Just a couple of months back, they informed all parents that 30 December would be half-day closure, apparently coz 31 December, a typical half day, falls on a Saturday this year so they brought the half day to Friday *.* I confirmed with ECDA that centres cannot bring forward half-days! So after some messaging with the principal, she said that they would not close on 30 December anymore but there was no follow-up on the mass email to all parents or other mention on school closure days until the newsletter came around.

And in the middle of this year, I was busy the day of Parent-Teacher Conference. I knew the teachers from PG onwards would be tied up with the PTC so the plan was to go for the PTC in the morning then get them home for a nap so that I could get some work in. But somehow, ZK's teacher missed out on his reply slip and by the time I realised ZK didn't have a timing, it was too late to schedule the boys at a similar timing in the morning. We ended up with 1 plus pm, which meant that I had to go on my own while the boys napped, i.e. I must work in the morning. Sito happened to have reservist those two weeks and we didn't know whether he had to stay over the weekend yet.

So I needed to send the boys to school in the morning so that I could work. I informed the principal and was surprised at her reply that there would be no child care on PTC days. I had previously put one or both boys in on a past PTC day, before the current principal and the current management, and the infant carers helped out. But in any case, I sought good old ECDA's confirmation - yes, centres must continue to provide child care on PTC days unless they utilise one of the 5.5 days of centre closure.

And in the very early days when ZK was in infant care, I had events on many Saturdays. When I first told the centre, then under a different management and a different principal, they told me ok, just pick up before 1 pm. Various bells rang at the back of my head - I had done marriage and parenthood policy before, including child care, and I remembered vividly the stipulated child care centre timings. I didn't need to ask anyone - a simple search verified that centres have to open until 2 pm for half days.

I have highlighted the key points from my experience above, but the main lesson for parents is this - child care centres may not know everything. If in doubt, always check ECDA website; if the website is not clear, e.g. in the PTC case, ask ECDA directly.

The seven permitted days of closure already utilises most if not all of the six days of child care leave of one parent. If both parents can take turns to take leave, it's great! But some parents may find it more difficult to take leave than others so not both parents can take leave easily. And sometimes, one parent is not enough *.* Add HFMD to the equation - oh the scary HFMD! - and parents can get really tight on leave. I'm lucky to have many days of annual leave but most parents don't have this many.

Update 27 Sep 2016

The principal clarified with me this morning. I forgot to count the three half-days for eve of public holiday. So they're lumping the Christmas eve and New Year eve into one closure day on Christmas eve, and 25 November is still a closure day. But the Deepavali closure is a mistake.

Last major date night for a while...

Sito and I had a nice dinner at Morton's on Friday. We had wanted to try Cut but the only available timing was too late for us. Anyway, Morton's is always good :) After that, we had some ice cream in bed - too full for the chocolate lava cake at Morton's earlier!

It was a good date night for us. At 36 weeks, with me growing bigger and my pubic bone throbbing on and off, it's just difficult for us to go far. So this was our last date night that needed travelling. From next week, we'll do local. Luck for us, there are plenty of options downstairs.

And then, it would be no date night for quite a while...

I like our date nights. It's a time for ourselves, like dating days. Sure, the kids are home and sometimes I'll have a moment of panic of leaving them alone with the helper. But thankfully, I'm just being paranoid.

So Friday, besides the kids, we talked about compartmentalising our work and life, job and money issues etc.

We are people who keep bringing work home. His new role in the same company has seen him taking night calls almost every week night. It's bad enough that we're working at home almost every night. There's really no need for work to creep into our life, our conversations, affecting our mood at home. So I asked him to compartmentalise his work and life earlier this week. But Friday, I realised that this advice would apply to me as well.

Our situations are somewhat different - he tends to get frustrated at the job, at its progress, at some co-workers; I tend to get frustrated at the sheer amount of work and I find it hard to not think about work waiting for me to finish... So while he needs to stop talking about his work when he's not working, I need to stop thinking about my work when I'm not working.

We also wondered at our financial stability, especially if he were to lose his job. He wondered if he was needlessly worried. Perhaps coz I never seemed worried? :p But ya, I'm not so worried. My laogong has enough credentials while I have a steady job that - last I heard - still wants me. I also wondered, cannot be that all the private sector people are all hung up about job security right? That's a lot of people *.*

As we walked back from the carpark, Sito asked if we should get a car after moving to Bukit Panjang. Nope, child care is hopefully just downstairs - I've signed up at ECDA website! - and if we really need to ferry the kids for primary school, it might be cheaper to hire a cab regularly and/or sign up for car-share for the odd trip to less accessible places. I'm also ready to go part-time if need be to give myself some flexibility, although that this kind of part-time sure lugi one - part-time pay for full-time work, tmd! Perhaps flexi-time la, since I'm already working from home a lot...

Anyway, we didn't take pictures that day. Morton's is always too dark for nice pictures. But I found a picture from early September when we went to Ajisen at Junction 8. We used to go to Ajisen at Takashimaya on our Tuesday date nights before we got married! Since then, there have been so many new and better ramen places that we seldom go to Ajisen. Also, the kids didn't seem to like Ajisen much. So it was very nostalgic for us :)

Like we were in our 20s again :)


We have planned for the next two date nights - xiao long bao and Indian food! After that, well, we shall see if there's a chance for another date night before monkey comes out...

Saturday, 24 September 2016

Kiddy updates

ZK did something quite out of character today - he saw his friend C from the car and when we stopped, he quickly got out, ran to greet her. I've never seen him so enthusiastic to see a friend before, not even H! C graduated a couple of months back from K2 and is in elementary school now. She came along with her younger brother who is in ZK's class. Maybe he's into older girls hoho!

Anyway, plenty of cute shots for September...

All geared up for H's birthday party!


My happy boys :)


ZK having baked cheesy pasta! I'm making it one of these days..


The 4yos were very excited over the big Frozen cake, Frozen with a big F of course...


Did a home activity with ZY - flowers to hand back to the school for the President's Challenge


Two Sundays ago, I brought ZK out after his Sunday nap to buy shoes but ended up with only slippers. And juice :)


I cannot understand this letting the train run thing...


ZY holding the brush properly!


ZK could hold a pen very well at two years old, probably coz he held his spoon very well quite early. ZY, on the other hand, is just grabbing his spoon. But style aside, ZK doesn't like to feed him or write, while ZY would feed himself and loves to write and paint!

Making cut-out food from playdough


And of course ZK gets the rolling pin and press machine...


I'm taller than you!


I carry Mama's leg!


School updated FB late - ZY's National Day snack :)


ZY's breakfast - should have been mine...


ZK making mooncakes in school - but he didn't eat it when he brought it home


ZY also made but never ate *.*


Mama, I poopoo and weewee in the potty! (So big!)


I haven't bring (sic) my dinosaur baby to school for a long time...


It wasn't that long ago, my ZK baby... Bought a clock and tried teaching him time but he wasn't interested. ZY was more interested, hmmm... But ZK has been learning addition in school. Shall see if I can help a bit later today...

Monkey business

My monkey is a very active little boy. So active I'm sore a lot of the time. This past week, I would be walking and minding my own business when he gave a squirm inside and my left hip left stiff from the soreness *.* My pubic bone hurt like mad the past two days too, even though all I did was to sit there and work!

Well, like the doc said, it would be over very soon - we're 36 weeks already, yeah!

Friday, 16 Sep 2016 - 35w

Had a little shock early in the morning - found a tinge of red when I wiped! Went back in bed to seek Dr Google's advice. Many people saw blood at this point. If it's the mucous plug, labour may take place within hours or weeks - very helpful *.*

Anyway, nothing happened. Monkey continued to play kickboxing inside.

Thursday, 22 Sep 2016 - 35w5d

So I weighed in at 77.8kg - that's a 2+kg gain in two weeks when monkey gained only max 400g!! He's between 2.8kg and 3kg now. But when I asked, Dr Wong said that's accurate +/- 20%. That's quite a large variance! Still, more accurate than "the old days where they shook your belly with magic hands and gave you a number"!

Baby too close to surface - can hardly see his face


Anyway, I blamed my weight on the big breakfast. We shall see next week - yep, weekly from now, exciting!

So this visit, we did a vaginal swab to test for Strep B. Doc wasn't concerned about the bid of red coz I had some white blood cells in my urine so I might have had an infection. And he went through the birth details with me too, despite this being my third. I like that he's meticulous in explaining things, even though it sounded scary at some points. Last time I never asked and Dr Chan isn't the kind to offer information unless you ask - he's the 包在我身上 type... Good and bad... So, key points:
  • No routine episiotomy. Since I had delivered naturally twice, he'll monitor and if I look like I might tear, he'll make a little snip to let it tear in that direction *.*
  • If baby is threatened or I can't push out and need forceps, he'll make a bigger cut.
  • The remaining epidural post delivery will see me through the most painful six hours of the tear and sewing.
  • If I see enough blood, have water roll down my legs or have contractions, go straight in - don't wait! Coz the two talking monkeys took all of three hours to go from 3 cm to 10 cm. Yes, I want my epidural...
  • I'll be strapped in to monitor baby heartbeat and contractions, and charted for progress. If I don't progress to full dilation within 10-12 hours, no need to wait, just cut. But I could be given oxytocin somewhere in between to see if I progress too - I'm quite sure I will with oxytocin.
  • If baby or mama is threatened at any point in time, no discussion - just cut.
  • But most likely, things will be fine :)
And he's guessing I might go earlier than last time. Shucks, work not handed over yet! Baby stuff not all settled yet! Ok, better be prepared...

Today, 36w1d

This morning, I was on my way to the supermarket when an old grandma walking towards me suddenly exclaimed - that's a boy! And went on to explain she could tell from my pointed belly... This was the nth time I got this... Indeed, my belly tends to go front than to the sides. But it also struck me that this was probably how it was before ultrasound, people guessing gender by the shape of the belly.

A significant development today is that for the first time in some two weeks, I did not have to strain to poop! Hope this means my constipation is somehow clearing up.

So there, I'm very excited that for the first time, I'll be waiting for labour to start instead of being induced.

Today, I shall let my nesting instinct take over - off to pack things now!

Tuesday, 20 September 2016

My cute little ZY

I realised I don't really write exclusively on ZY... Well, when there are more kids...

So I just found a note in my phone that says:
  • ZY kissed me on 26 Sep 2015 (yes 2015!); and I also found an upper tooth that week
  • ZY could say his name on 4 Oct 2015, "two", "elephant" and "star"
  • ZY tried the potty for the first time on 30 Oct 2015
  • ZY said "nice" and "share" on 6 Dec 2015
  • ZY said "where papa?" on 9 Jan 2015
I can't help but feel a little guilty that I haven't been tracking his growth as much as I did for ZK.

And he's so cute!!!


And cheeky!


We started some form of potty training lately as I mentioned (I think) and this evening, he decided to go to the potty. N didn't give him a diaper after that since he just peed and would shower soon. But he started saying "my wee wee painful!" Think those particular pants weren't too comfortable so he took them off - oh yes, he can put on and take off his pants now!

I dug out a pair of underwear that ZK had outgrown. Um, both boys and the underwear is still quite new, not gross at all :p When ZY saw that, he went "waterplay!" just like he did when we first introduced the pull-up diapers. Well, he wore the underwear and found it more comfortable. Underwear-donning boy continued his dinner.... Think I'll start him on underwear proper over the next long weekend.

He doesn't seem to have his full set of milk teeth yet but he's already brushing his teeth on his own. We just let him play around with the toothbrush and a controlled amount of kiddy toothpaste. Think the school will start them brushing some time next year...

Like ZK, he loves watching video, sighs... Sometimes, he wants to see YY - that means photos and videos on my phone :) It's quite cute to see him do that - he'll call out each person and keep rewatching the videos.

And speaking of calling us, he sometimes call ZK by his name instead of GeGe! We're trying to tell him that ZK is the DaGeGe and he's the XiaoGeGe once monkey arrives :)

Like his brother, ZY likes to be big and strong :p